“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar." –Raymond Lindquist
I don’t suppose many of us consider ourselves courageous, at least not all the time. (This is quickly turning into a different piece than I’d thought it would be – after one sentence!)
Yet we relinquish the familiar every day, whether it’s something as simple as letting the day go and going to sleep or if it’s something monumental, like the loss of a child or a parent.
Change is the nature of things; the only things that don’t change are dead things, and even they change in ways we might not want to. And yet we so often cling to those dead things, thinking maybe that to let go will be to no longer love them. Or, maybe, thinking we can go against the tide and perhaps, this time, keep something from changing.
Change happens. Period.
The only thing we’re in charge of is choosing whether or not to accept that change, if not willingly, at least knowingly.
Accepting change doesn’t mean forgetting. Accepting change is simply a way of growing. Growth is often painful and turbulent, but not always. But growth is change. You can change with equanimity or you can change with painful resistance (because pain is the result of resistance), but short of death, you and all around you will change.
The changes in my life have been both simple and monumental. I’ve resisted many and much, as well as been able to release and let go.
What happens when we let go? We enter into a new life. Literally. We let go into sleep and wake into a new world. We let go of anger and resentment and enter into a new life where we feel lighter and more energetic. We let go of sorrow and pain and enter into a new life of relief and creativity.
I’ve long held on when I should let go and yet when I’ve let go, I’ve discovered a renewed feeling of life.
Why don’t I learn? Why don’t I realize that releasing pain and angst is renewing to the spirit? I know this is true and yet I cling to the way things “should” be instead of accepting the way things are.
That doesn’t mean I shouldn’t try to change things that should be changed but before I can do that, I have to accept that they exist as they are now. Then I must let them go and change can happen.
This, too, shall pass.